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Preparing Your Child

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Most children who have a strong reaction to potty training are having a reaction to the TRANSITION. Going from wearing a snug, cozy diaper, keeping all your business close to your body to wearing nothing and letting it all go in the toilet is a HUGE transition. For kids with a diagnosis, particularly “on the spectrum”, any transitions are hard but potty training is particularly difficult. Whenever I work with kids with any spectrum diagnosis, we pay close attention to how to make a smooth transition for the child.  But for the...

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The Mother of All Potty Training Posts (aka: the most common questions)

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The Mother of All Potty Training Posts (aka: the most common questions)

Usually, at the end of the year, I do a rambling post about random thoughts I’m having as another year closes out. But as this year closes out, I thought I’d do something a little more helpful.  Since Simon and Schuster re-launched Oh Crap Potty Training in June of 2015, it has soared in popularity. We are flooded with common questions that my assistants and I answer on an almost daily basis.  Most of these are addressed in the book but since both myself AND the big fancy publisher forgot about an index (the biggest Duh in the...

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Screentime and Potty Training

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Let’s talk about screen time and potty training. This post is NOT about how much, how little, or any personal feelings about screen time and your littles.  This post is about some pitfalls that can happen when your child is viewing any screen (TV, movies, phone, camera roll, games, or anything else I haven’t thought of). And how to use screen time effectively, if you do allow your child some viewing time. The biggest thing to remember is that children under the age of 7 or so, don’t distinguish between real life and...

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The Kid Who Pees In The Highchair/Carseat

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Highchairs and carseats are the arch nemesis of potty training. Almost all kids will let loose once they are bent at the abdomen in a comfy seated position. This includes the couch, as well. It’s vital kids go potty before sitting for any extended time. Which makes sense and I bet you already knew that…but HOW is the question. Right? First thing to do is build in the time you need to be able to casually prompt your child.  If you need to get in the car by say, 8am…you want to start prompting a half hour (or however long you...

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Does Potty Training Affect Sleep?

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Does Potty Training Affect Sleep?

Many parents often ask if it’s possible for potty training to affect sleep. Yes! Yes, it does. And not just yours. It’s important to remember that this is probably the first process your child has learned that has a distinct order and only one desirable outcome. It’s a huge milestone with lots of learning. It also requires your child to become super aware of bodily functions they previously gave no thought to. This means your child’s brain is on overdrive. The two biggest complaints parents have are: 1. Naps seem to be...

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Let’s Bless The Sanctimonious Moms

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Let’s Bless The Sanctimonious Moms

Quick story. When I was in social work, I worked with dual diagnosis moms and their kids. Often this meant, helping plan the kids’ birthday parties. There were set-aside funds for this so I would collaborate with the mom for party planning. One time, one mom begged me, “Please Jamie, can you get real Coke for the party?”  It was a 3 year old’s party.  My clients were often grossly undereducated about nutrition. I was about to launch into a nutritional dialogue about soda and toddlers when she went on, “When I was...

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The Kid Who Hates To Be Naked

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The Kid Who Hates To Be Naked

When you first begin potty training, it’s vital to have your child bare bummed or naked. This is purely logistical. Those first pees must be caught mid-stream; then you gently haul ass to get your child to the potty. If your child has clothes on, by the time you see the wetness on his pants, he will have emptied his bladder and the learning opportunity is lost.  Occasionally, I have a parent buck up against this notion. In fact, I once had a reader claim I was BARBARIC for suggesting her child run around naked, “like an...

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The Kid Who Sits Too Long. Like Forever.

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The Kid Who Sits Too Long. Like Forever.

About once a month, I get a letter from a reader who is super concerned that her child sits forever on the potty. This is always in the first few weeks of potty training (although many kids will sit to poop for a long time through adult hood and that’s okay too). This is NOTHING to be concerned about. This is so new and so exciting and maybe even a bit nerve wracking, that the child is just excited to do it. With very little exception, this gets real old, real fast. Toddlers generally don’t care to be sitting that long for ANY...

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The Kid Who Only Stands To Poop

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The Kid Who Only Stands To Poop

Sometimes you have this kid. The kid who stands to poop. She’s never squatted while in a diaper, at least to your knowledge.  Sometimes I get a client whose child doesn’t even poop in their sleep or supine position. It’s all standing poop for this child. Not to worry…this child will absolutely begin sitting to poop in short order. The tough part of the process for this child is the transition from standing to sitting to poop. You should never force or try to convince this child to sit (ever, really). It’s not her...

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Holy Sh*t.

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Holy Sh*t.

This kid. Sometimes, like here in this picture, he takes my breath away. Look at him. In Bali. Learning phrases in Bhasa, bargaining at the marketplace, handling 13 hour flights. AND LOOKING COOL. Right? The cool took my breath away. I can almost taste the burgeoning cool. He’s becoming. Something. Himself. I don’t know who or what fully. Not yet. Cool? Geek? Musician? Artist? Scientist? Teen. Man. Who will he be? More of what he is now? Less? Different? What part did I play? Did I play any? He’s UNFOLDING in front of me....

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