Q: My child is outside of the window of opportunity...will your book help me?
A: Yup. There is a chapter devoted exclusively to children who are either under 20 months or over 30 months. Both have their pros and con and their own approach.
Q: Can I join the forum without buying the book?
A: Nope. They are a package deal. Our Community Forum is designed for people who have read the book and need extra support. I don’t want the forum to turn into a hotbed of crazy opinions on this personal topic. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I’m interested in real world potty training, not theory and opinions. THIS IS TRULY A SUPPORTIVE PLACE. You’re a mom. You’ve been on other parenting forums. You know how crazy they get. I don’t want that.
Q: My child is (any age over 3 and a half). We've tried everything and still can't get her potty trained. Can you help?
A: Probably not. Chances are you’ve attempted potty training and run smack into behavior problems. There is a chapter on behavior and potty training. In all reality though, my experience is that you need more help than my book provides. Particularly if your child’s issue in potty training revolves somehow around poop. I highly suggest the website, Soiling Solutions.
Q: I'm interested in potty training my one year old. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. Am I?
A: NO! Good for you!!! This is entirely POSSIBLE. Potty training a child under 16 months is not only do-able but what most of the planet does. However, this process is slightly different than mine. It’s called Elimination Communication (EC), Natural Hygiene, or Infant Hygiene. Head over to EC Simplified.com and see my friend and colleague, Andrea. She’ll hook you up. I’m not your girl in this case. Good luck and f**k everyone who thinks you’re crazy.
Q: We are just beginning to think about potty training. Do we really need a book about this or can't we do it on our own?
A: Absolutely, you can do it on your own! For a multitude of reasons, potty training has become a big ordeal. I’m here to tell the world it’s not and to help parents who need help. Give it a go…of course! Remember: potty training should happen between 20-30 months and should take no longer than a week. If neither of those are true for you once you begin, I highly suggest buying the book. I’m not here to convince you to buy my book. I’m here to help if you think you need help.
Q:I have twins. Do you address twins/multiples?
A: The process for potty training is the same regardless if you have twins or triplets or more (yikes!). The only difference with twins is you will need an extra set of hands the first day or two. We have moms of twins on the forum so you also get the benefit of their knowledge should you need it.
Q: I have a special needs child. Can you help me?
A:I know many parents who have used my book to potty train their special needs child. However, we all know that your child has his own quirks and idiosyncrasies. Generally speaking, most kids won’t get an official diagnosis until they are around 3.5 to 4 years old. This is way past the window of opportunity for effortless potty training. In my experience, when your child IS in the window of 20-30 months, most parents suspect something is “not right”. Usually, this is due to a speech delay and/or gross motor skill delay. Understandably, parents are advised to “pick your battle”. This is completely up to you. I do know that the longer you delay potty training, the harder it gets. You must realize that your child’s particular diagnosis will be a huge part in his potty training. Obviously, if your child has Oppositional Defiance Disorder, your child most likely will be defiant about the transition from diapers to potty. Kids with Sensory Integration Disorder will have issues with the feel of the potty chair and/or pooping. Children with Autism will run the gamut, depending on the severity of their diagnosis. If you are here and your child is older than 3, my book may be helpful to you but you will want to approach potty training in conjunction with your Occupational Therapist or other specialist you may be working with.
Q: Do you guarantee my kid will be potty trained in 3 days?
A. No. I have no idea what you will do with the information I’ve presented. And let’s be honest. Toddlers are known little weirdos. My book is the best how-to in the industry. My book has answers no one else has. This is the What To Expect When Expecting of potty training. It answers your questions. The 3 day nonsense CAN and DOES happen but it’s skewed our perception of this very important milestone.
Q: What makes you such an expert?
A: I call myself a potty trainer. Expert? Eh. By sheer virtue of helping thousands of parents, I’ve probably dealt with your situation or something similar. Does that make me an expert? Yeah, maybe. I’m more of good witch I think.
Q: My 3 year old keeps crapping his pants. Can you help me? Or any other of the hundreds of one-liners I get via email.
A: No joke. I get an email like this at least once a day. I LOVE potty training. I think so much about it that I have a running blog and I wrote a really long book about it. Please, buy the book and join our community forum. I do not answer emails regarding specific potty training problems.