Wait Till They’re Ready
Apr11

Wait Till They’re Ready

Oh, boy. This is the big daddy of potty training soundbites. “I’m just going to wait till he’s ready.”  I’m sure you’ve heard and you may even be saying it. Whenever a parent tells me this, I always ask, “Okay! Cool. What does ready look like to you?” And often I’m met with a blank stare. Sometimes parents will say they are waiting for interest from the child. That’s cool....

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Is Night Training Really Necessary?
Feb18

Is Night Training Really Necessary?

If potty training itself has the potential to scare the bejeezus out of parents, then night training has the potential to cause full blown panic attacks. WAKE A SLEEPING CHILD? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I get parents practically shouting at me through the internet. So of course, the next question then becomes, is night training necessary? And the answer is as definitive as toddlers themselves; YES and NO. *The NO,...

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Struggling With Getting Poop In The Potty?
Jan28

Struggling With Getting Poop In The Potty?

Pooping difficulty is probably one of the most common issues when potty training.  There’s a million different specifics but the gist is a child who’s doing well with pee and for some reason, just can’t let go of that poop in the potty. It can look like fear. It can look like a power struggle. It can look like your child is just being difficult.   It’s important to remember we can never, ever MAKE a child...

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Positive Reinforcement vs. Bribery
Jun24

Positive Reinforcement vs. Bribery

Somewhere on the parenting pendulum swing, positive reinforcement and bribery have gotten wildly confused. They are not the same thing. The term positive reinforcement hit the mainstream maybe around 30 years ago. It was decidedly not in vogue when I was little and I’m 47.  Before this term became a household phrase, parents tended to only see the bad or negative. You never got props for the good shit you did. Only hounding for...

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Q + A: Potty Training Multiples
Jan21

Q + A: Potty Training Multiples

QUESTION: How do I deal with potty training twins? What if one is getting it and the other feels bad? What if they are different genders? Do I buy 2 potties? Do they each get to have their own special potty? Ahhh!!!   ANSWER:  And breathe. Moms with twins, triplets or more (yikes) naturally freak about potty training. HOWEVER, remember that you, as a multiple mom, are so much more accustomed to a higher level of chaos AND...

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Self Initiated Potty Use
Sep14

Self Initiated Potty Use

  So you’re a few weeks into potty training and things are going great. But suddenly you realize that you, the parent are still pretty much doing all the work. You do the prompting, you do the-bringing-to-the-potty, you deal with the clothes…you do everything except the actual peeing. And you’re getting the feeling that if you COULD do that for your kid, they’d let you. This kid is passive to say the...

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