More On Rewards and Disasters

A funny thing occurred to me recently. A mama at one of my workshops brought up rewards for potty training. I don’t care for using rewards to potty train, for a myriad of reasons I list here. I was giving my no-rewards reasoning and this mama was pretty adamant about wanting to use rewards. “All my friends used M&Ms and it worked.” And I sighed. Yes. I do know that rewards work for some kids. I’m aware that...

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The  #1 Reason Potty Training Has Gotten Harder
May17

The #1 Reason Potty Training Has Gotten Harder

There are some HEATED opinions about potty training. Among them…the wait-till-they’re-ready theorists. We can wax philosophical all we want but I like to remind people that there really is a HUGE reason why potty training has gotten harder over the years.  WHY generations before us didn’t have the potty training struggles we have now. Of course,  there are many factors. Societal changes, a huge amount of conflicting...

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Fear of Public Restrooms
Mar20

Fear of Public Restrooms

Reader Question: My son is petrified of using public restrooms. Am I destined to drive around with a potty in the back of my car for the rest of his childhood? Public Restrooms. Gross. And scary for the littles. When we look at this through toddler eyes, public restrooms really can be horrible. Most restrooms now have the Dyson hand dryers. Which are LOUD. And just exactly the height of most toddlers. Public restrooms are LIVE; sound...

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Preparing Your Child

Most children who have a strong reaction to potty training are having a reaction to the TRANSITION. Going from wearing a snug, cozy diaper, keeping all your business close to your body to wearing nothing and letting it all go in the toilet is a HUGE transition. For kids with a diagnosis, particularly “on the spectrum”, any transitions are hard but potty training is particularly difficult. Whenever I work with kids with any...

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Screentime and Potty Training

Let’s talk about screen time and potty training. This post is NOT about how much, how little, or any personal feelings about screen time and your littles.  This post is about some pitfalls that can happen when your child is viewing any screen (TV, movies, phone, camera roll, games, or anything else I haven’t thought of). And how to use screen time effectively, if you do allow your child some viewing time. The biggest thing...

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The Kid Who Pees In The Highchair/Carseat

Highchairs and carseats are the arch nemesis of potty training. Almost all kids will let loose once they are bent at the abdomen in a comfy seated position. This includes the couch, as well. It’s vital kids go potty before sitting for any extended time. Which makes sense and I bet you already knew that…but HOW is the question. Right? First thing to do is build in the time you need to be able to casually prompt your child....

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